“When you can’t look on the bright side, I will sit with you in the dark”, this is from Alice In Wonderland. I believe this is a desire which sits at the core of all our close relationships. It’s our inner most yearning to be able to express our vulnerabilities and to be accepted for our values and beliefs in our partnerships. When two people come together in relationship it’s almost like two people coming together from two different planets. Each individual responds differently, naturally, making it an important factor in either a connection or a disconnection. Many self-reflective tools are offered to you throughout the course of my coaching to reconstruct this connection. There will be tools offered for you to see yourself clearly and non-judgementally. In love relationships, couples are guided to find and reconnect to those parts of yourself that you’ve lost touch with, along the way. Doing this helps in relationship-repair which means coming back together, after an experience of disconnection and unmet needs. The process of knowing yourself better and self-cherishing, builds a deeper connection with oneself and subsequently helps in developing a compassionate equation with your partner. Not just romantic relationships but all relationships including friendships, require genuine affection and investment of interest and quality time. Most of our life and relationships are a matter of creating a work and personal life balance, creating enough quality time and engagement in all our important relationships. A good life is also making better choices from a moment to moment basis, that isn’t guided by fear or insecurity but instead inspired by love and common compassion.
As your Relationship coach, I will guide and support you to create a healthy, meaningful, intimate relationship by shifting your focus in several key areas :-
- Holding onto partners and friendships long past their expiry date, are you? If you are not being treated well by the world or in your intimate relationship, think about this — what and how are you teaching the world to treat you?
- What could change if you learn to say NO when you want to say no. Saying No is a massive self-love practice and a gateway to your greatest sense of self. Saying No when you feel no, protects your emotional and physical health. I will provide you with a list of decent and polite ways to decline an offer or to say a clear no.
- Learn to navigate the regular relationship complexities. Learning to navigate the confusing journey of relationships when one partner is emotionally withdrawn or shut down. Become aware of your pain and learn effective ways of communicating honestly what you want and how do you want to be treated.
- Understanding the ways of creating a genuinely loving relationship by understanding your attachment styles, the kind in which you are understood, admired and appreciated as your original self.
- Understanding more about what ‘authenticity’ really means and why is it important to be absolutely authentic in all relationships including friendships. Being authentic is an active process of unravelling, ever evolving and creative process. It’s not about revealing something, it’s about building something and that something is “YOU” which is also ever changing.
- If you are single right now and are looking to be in a relationship but not been able to succeed, then I can guide you to use this time to learn more about yourself through personality assessment methods. Discover all about your strengths and challenges and most importantly learn how to improve the quality of your self-talk. Your self-talk determines the quality of relationship with yourself. As you learn to love and accept yourself more, you will know what kind of partner will be best for you.
- I will help you create your own sense and definition of love and when you have the crystal clear clarity on the kind of love you want and deserve, that’s when you become ready to attract that love in your life.
- Understanding that your needs are VALID. Learn to communicate your needs without making it sound like a demand through some cutting-edge coaching tools. Repair the connection between you and your partner with clear communication.
- Learn Conflict-Resolution skills to reform and strengthen your relationship. Master the art of deep listening with the intent and purpose of enabling deep sharing. Allowing what is felt and experienced to come up with an intention to return with an appropriate response to relieve the suffering of another as opposed to react furiously in a blaming and judgemental way.
- Letting go and moving on is hard! Learn ways to release your pains from the past and heal from past betrayals and heart-breaks.
- Identify and break free from your old fears, old negative and recurring patterns or limiting beliefs that are holding you back from finding new love or restoring current love.
- Releasing control and taking responsibility for the distrust that drove you apart is absolutely crucial to mend things. Repair broken relationships and reconstructing connections is an ongoing part of long term relationships. Get effective healing tips and techniques to repair old wounds in an existing partnership to rekindle the spark of romance that brought you together in the first place.
- Showing empathy and compassion in your relationships yet establishing ‘healthy boundaries’ so that you are not constantly depleted. Knowing that giving of yourself and your time comes from a place of love BUT giving too much comes from a place of need and lack. Ultimately it leads to anger and resentment. Creating healthy boundaries feels empowering.
- Learning to express with empathy and vulnerability can translate stubborn criticisms and judgements of the other into valuable information. This is a powerful and efficient way to minimise reactivity and is also an important step in the process of Relationship-Repair. To be able to see each other clearly after coming back together after an experience of disconnection and unmet needs.
- Support and guidance to understand how you can intentionally make time for your emotional connection but to avoid over-merging with the other. Respecting the need for space and me-time for yourself and your partner.
- Get consistent emotional support, powerful tools and tips for creating authentic, loving, conscious-relationships and to continue to enjoy a meaningful and fulfilling life that keeps getting better with time.